An amazing book. I'm not sure how it's particularly career-path-impacting, but it is fascinating being able to follow the cause and effect chain in Germany leading up to and all through the war (in excruciating detail).
there's less breakups than people entering the market and most normal people don't wanna scoop them up the second they graduate -- at least not if you're gunning for marriage
I research deanonymization techniques and, in the broad sense "disinformation" -- but more in the sense how do I plant the seed of an idea and let it grow rather than the crass and short term operations folks like "The Russians" do.
So uh... basically looking into ways to de-anonymize Tor users and shitposting?
Honestly, it's hard to summon they joy I used to have for anything tech related when I look out at the news.
I'm ugly and I had a lot of dates. Not a lot went beyond one, but people were perfectly willing to chance a beer if you can actually string together a sentence.
Maybe ranking people like that is why you struggle, and not your looks?
Sadly I think a lot of men have untreated eating disorders and body dysmorphia.
I've been using Libreoffice to store my diary for years -- IIRC they use blowfish on the crypto side of things? I had a weird issue a while back where I'm not sure if I forgot my diary's password, or the file got corrupted.
I've had that happen a few times, each with a long space in between I keep things on paper.
It's a great project that doesn't get enough love.
Why Libreoffice? Does your diary contain advanced formatting, tables, images, or other involved content? Or just for the encryption?
I ask because I also keep a diary and have refined how I store it and secure it, over 25+ years. Only recently did I find something that I like better than paper.
>absolutely massive amount of moderation that it would require.
Wow, this thread blew up -- I think you hit on the core issue, and one that I hadn't thought enough about. Moderation doesn't scale and is very difficult.
>You have age verification laws, payment gateways that will stop processing if they get even a whiff that sex workers might be using your site to advertise, and bigots who will DDOS you
I don't believe you on the sex worker part -- I think I went on a few "dates" where folks were being polite because I didn't understand some of the language and phrasing used in their profiles. (Also sex worker is a broad term, and dancers camgirls etc want to find true love too.)
It can be hard, dating in a big city like SF. And I probably had a "garbage in, garbage out" experience with the site since I lied and said I was straight and some people filter "the straights" out.
The twenty aughts were incredibly homophobic, and if you're a 2 on the kinsey scale -- someone who only wants to hook up and not date the same sex -- it was a lot simpler to just not bring it up because a lot of people will drop ten twenty match points if you admit you've had sex with a man while fronting as progressive.
Finally, since some of the language and phrasing I see you using reminds me of internal Google mailing lists folks have given me a peek at, I'd like to say here, in public, that I went on a lot of dates in the Bay Area with extremely privileged people who don't seem to get that on a long enough timeline if you're scared shitless of my hacking skills on a date but doubt me in the interview room, that's going to be radicalizing... a persistent pattern of being told if I won't slam a baby into someone they won't accurately attest to my skills, a persistent pattern of being gatekept into precarity that did not make me feel like I had any allies or friends in the technology space and I was grateful SF had a thriving arts scene to keep me sane.
Anyways, the world is darker -- I got trolled at one point when I reactivated OKC. Like, legit "I'm not even sure if this is a real person" level troll, something I never used to encounter online dating. (Woman said she wants a man who loves her like she loves Bibi, splits her time between Israel, and... has no idea what the black flag movement is? Felt like I was being baited into going off on someone who might not really exist.)
>bigots who will DDOS you if you dare to cater to the needs of minorities.
I've had the sites hosting essays about my childhood DDoSed as I was shopping around a sequel -- there's a war going on out there to shape our media landscape that the normies don't see or sense.
I'm guessing you're not a fetlife user, then? They have had repeated issues with keeping a payment gateway, since mastercard keeps yanking service due to sex workers advertising on the site.
Did you ever use craigslists personal ads? The ones they were forced to remove after FOSTA passed?
Yeah, I'm surprised no one has spun up a competitor that combines evidence based match questions with the rich profiles okc was famous for -- OKC's only failing was you might find out you have someone you're a big match with who does NOT return that sentiment.
I also think we've lost the ability to do things like man up and ask out the barista knowing full well you're switching coffee shops for at least six months if you read that one wrong... when I was like, 20, I used apps because I didn't feel capable of just... talking to people. The MRA stuff is insane, but there's something to be said for being able to ask for what you want.
1.) Stasi: The Untold Story Of The East German Secret Police
ISBN #: 0813337445
2.) The Rise and Fall of the Third Reich
ISBN #: 9780671728694
Both should be available in most public libraries, but with the ISBN you can usually get almost anything via inter-library loan.
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